Paul's Story

"My wife left me in 2017. We’d been together ten years and had two children. I had a bad car accident and ended up with a broken back and neck. She was my power of attorney. She used that to clear out my bank. She also withdrew money on my home loan, ran a GoFundMe to cover my medical bills. It was a scam. I was in a public hospital. I only found out and pieced it all together when a lady contacted me on Facebook.

My wife earns around $250,000 and [her new partner] earns $500,000. It's all about money. She used my brain injury to get a temporary DV intervention order placed on me. She’s using near unlimited income to keep dragging me through the courts and make me suffer. My solicitor said I could fight the DV order, but his advice was to accept it and save the money.

They’ve dragged me through court for two years so far. She keeps stopping me from seeing my children. My solicitor has said this cannot continue. But it does. I didn’t see this side of my wife when we were married. I don’t want to see other people go through this."

Paul is a dad in his 40's in NSW. This is his story in his words.

Alterations have been made to preserve confidentiality.

“My wife left me in 2017 without any explanation. We’d been together for ten years and had two children together.

I had a very bad car accident and ended up with a broken back and neck.

I was in hospital for the best part of a year.

During that time, she was my Power of Attorney, which exists to protect someone when they’re vulnerable.

She used that as an opportunity to clear out my bank account.

She also withdrew money on my home loan, ran a GoFundMe fundraiser to supposedly “cover my medical bills”. It was all a scam. I was in a public hospital.

I only found out and pieced it all together when a lady contacted me on Facebook. She knew the guy my wife had moved on with. He and my wife had been having an affair.

She earns around $250,000 and he earns $500,000 plus benefits. It's all about money for her.

She used my brain injury to get a temporary DV intervention order placed on me.

I’m on a disability pension.

She’s using her income and her new partner’s near unlimited income to keep dragging me through the courts and make me suffer.

My solicitor said I could fight the DV order, but it would cost. His advice was to accept it and save the money.

They’ve dragged me through court for two years so far.

My mum and dad covered my legal costs and I’ve put in around $20,000 so far.

She seems to like making my life difficult. She keeps pushing the court back and stopping me from seeing my children.

My solicitor has said no way, this has gone on for years, this cannot continue.

But it does continue.

My mental health is pretty bad, I will be honest. I met a great new girlfriend who I now live with. She’s very supportive. I’m lucky to have her.

And I’m lucky to have support from my family, my parents.

I didn’t see this side of my wife when we were married.

I want to speak up because I want to raise awareness.

I want to use my situation to help other people.

I don’t want to see other people go through this.

If you ever need anything, you let me know…”

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